Hi everyone

As part of my homework for Living your Design - online course (yeah, thanks, Gennaro!) I went ahead and experimented with trying to treat others correctly by type.

Here's what I did.

1. My boss is a generator, so no doubt, I'm having a great time asking her if I could do this or the other. Her answer is always quite clear, Yes/ No or let's talk about it (she has a defined emotional system). What I've noticed is that she feels energized when I ask her yes/no question. I like that!

On the other hand, I noticed this week, that I get really angry when she asks me a general question in return. I'm just ready to explode when she asks "And how do you want to do that" - I think I'm getting so angry because I really have no way of knowing how I will do anything really (unaware of skills) and I have no clue as to what the plan is until I start working on it.

So, I went out on a limb and asked her to ask me correctly so that I can respond: "Do you want to do this?" rather than "What do you want to do"
Can't say that she liked it that much. But. at least I didn't go into my defined 63-4 and come up with a dozen solutions that may or may not be useful.

I asked for more time to get clear, sorta. And I got it, easily!!!
Whew, that wasn't so bad!

2. I sent an email inviting all projectors in my class to ask me generator questions. No one responded. Maybe it's because I didn't acknowledge them first. Interesting?!

Which makes me think: What's the difference between asking (a Generator) and inviting (a Projector)?

Is it something like:
(Projector) : I noticed you are good at so-and-so, I'd like you to help me with this ... ?

(Generator): Can you help me now?

I'd love to hear your insights.

Thanks!

hello heidi,
so in considering your request this is what happened. i rarely respond to any request that is put out to a group...meaning i KNOW i am not an energy type and unless someone specifically says, "hey linda, you are the expert on this what do you think or linda i want you to work on this... "i rarely respond. it is really a defense mechanism against overworking, which i have done plenty of until a few years ago.

i have been with my mother these last few weeks while my father is in cancer treatment and being with her is a full time job! so i knew i did not have the energy then, even though i would love to quiz you later this week or next!

the reason i can respond NOW is because i have had some time to think about this AND you wrote this reply which is like a 2nd invitation to me - what is needed for an emotional projector. this is VERY important. in reviewing my history i have never done anything important that i was not asked to do more than once. in my entire 15 year career in high tech, i have never looked for a job yet i have worked for plenty of companies. i am always asked by more than 1 person at the company to come to work for them - over a period of time. this was really eye-opening to me. this was right on from my reading!

so the bottom line here, for me (emotional projector) at least - i want to know why someone wants my time - i do not respond well to open-ended suggestion that i work (i know that this sounds bad and the value should be obvious, but it is almost like i tune out requests like this. in my youth i did not do this and responded to every request, but boy i guard my energy now, i have learned this the hard way! i also have not met you - so i am not clear that there will be energy there to work with - this is also key and i require personal contact to KNOW this - and i want to be invited more than once to know that i am really being seen and wanted. some of this explanation may also have to do with the my only definition being the 37-40 channel.

hope this helps! :)
linda

Howdy Heidi,

I really appreciated your invitation to quiz you. My own personal circumstances were a bit curious when I thought about what I could ask you about. As I was considering some questions, my right shoulder started to go out of the socket a bit (previously it has been dislocated a couple of times) so I concluded that my participation was 'pulling me in too many directions'. I have already had enough experience with the physical symptoms of stepping off my path and so I pay attention when it gets that drastic. My conclusion was that for now I just needed to stick with quizzing the generators and manifesting generators that I work and hang out with locally.

Also, in terms of how I have been invited previously, the invitations seem to need to come out of auric contact - someone talks to me through an unconscious mechanism rather than a mentally initiated one, even though they can rationalize it later (there usually needs to be some logic that the mind can use). Other than that, my usual tendency is to wait for something to stimulate me into talking about my own experience or to try to answer a question.